Engraved Bracelet for Barati

In India BARATI is an important aspect of marriage. Think about what can be common about all BARAT participants. How you can bind then under one bond. The idea described in next paragraph is something awesome. It is not only less expensive but also can be a keepsake for all participants.

Go for a bracelet with engraved option. You can engrave some special message to indicate your wedding. All the BARATI attendee will wear the same. It will make everybody a part of same occasion. Something can be use as a identity of your guests. It will also help to keep outsiders away of your ceremony. Now, you are tensed about engraving option. Here are some examples:

A weds B

A + B

Your Marriage Date

A+ B, date Month Year

Or Something creative from your mind.


It is all about, making your marriage unique in every possible way with affordable price. Go through the sample snap and execute the same. 

Ring bearer @ wedding

If we will follow the simple meaning of words, “The Ring Bearer” is the child attendant, who bears the wedding ring and represents it on a velvet cushion to the groom when he arrives at the mandap or stage. The ring bearer can be either a boy or girl, as it’s a less traditional position in the wedisphere. Comparing to “The Train Bearer”, it’s usually undertaken by a child closer to the family, such as a son or daughter, rather than a cousin or a niece or a friend’s child. Having a ring bearer is a great way to include family members in your wedding ceremony.

Owing to what can go wrong if you entrust a young child with an expensive and pivotal wedding ring, there are a few sneaky secrets to this practice to prevent disaster. The ring is either lightly sewn into the cushion’s fabric so it’s not accidentally deposited halfway down the aisle, or instead it is already in the pocket of any elder family member (best man in western culture) all along with a fake ring on the cushion (OMG!)

 

Want to make it more surprise! Once again read the simple meaning of “The Ring Bearer” and go for a 10 minute brain storming session. 1, 2, 3, 4, 5 minutes pass and still confused. Dear reader, how about choosing your beloved pet for this role. Yes! I am talking about your Tipu/Sheru/Kitty/Saharukh/Rani etcetera. Choose this option, if you feel comfortable and speak to the temple/church/civil venue to ensure that they’re ok with your pet having a cameo role.

Train bearer @ wedding

A train bearer is a boy or girl attendant at a wedding. This type of wedding attendant is less common than it used to be, but is still a way of including young relatives or the children of relatives and friends in a wedding. A train bearer is often seen at British royal weddings.

Traditionally, train bearers carry the bride's train, especially if she is wearing a dress with a long train. Because of the difficulty of managing the train, train bearers are generally no younger than age ten, with older ones being preferred for more complicated duties.

There are no set rules about train bearers - it is up to you. Whether you have them or not, boys or girls or combination of both gender, how many and how old they are, it is really you and your partner's personal preference. However if you have someone you are desperate to include who is more than age ten, there is no reason why you cannot include. Who you choose is really up to you whether it is your god child, nephew, niece, cousin, child or close friend’s child, it depends on what suits you.

Some factors that are good to consider though are:

• Would they be happy and willing to be a train bearer?
• Would their parents be happy and willing for them to be train bearers?
• Are they likely to behave themselves and stay quiet at all the right moments?

Tips for having train bearer

Queen Diana's marriage

1. You could pair up train bearers with proper ratio of boys and girls. It helps to remove the pressure for young ones and lastly, there is nothing like young love!
2. Let your train bearers meet other active participators of wedding like; the Best Man and Ushers before the big day, so they are not strangers.
3. Let the train bearers sit with their parents in the ceremony when they are not needed. This is the best way to keep the little naughty at firm place!
4. Arrange some gifts and give it prior to ceremony, motivate them for performing the job with more enthusiasm.

Flower Girl @ wedding

Who is Flower Girl? In broadest terms it is a girl associated with flowers. However, in real life wedding, flowers girls have several roles. The main purpose of flower girl is to make the kids, a part of the special day and to enhance the beauty of wedding ceremony.

In ancient time, flower girls performed different roles with different aspects. Modern flower girls always precede the bride down the aisle. They may carry flower baskets or spread pretty petals. Also, flower girls can carry the sign of “Here Comes the Bride”. Taking photos with bride is another important duty for flower girl. Remember, it is always best to take photos of flower girls as early as possible into the celebration. There is less chance that their outfits will be in a soiled, torn or wrinkled state and smiles on face.

Like ring bearers and train bearer, flower girls are usually members of the bride's or bridegroom's extended family, but may also be friends. Her male equivalent is the ring bearer. Often the ring bearer and the flower girl are dressed to look like a couple, and they may be dressed in miniature versions of the bride's and bridegroom's clothes. They can also go for separate design of attire. There is no thumb rule for dress code except following some basic guides.

When choosing the style of your flower girl’s dress, keep in mind that you want to stay within the style of the wedding. Check the colour and design should have synergy with your wedding theme. Choose tea-length dress over floor –length and make sure the socks or tights that you choose to go the style of the dress.



Buy some jewelry for the perfect finishing touch to the flower girl attire. Simple, classic jewelry is the most popular choice for flower girls. Since the dresses are often simple in neckline, classic pieces are a charming accessory. Want to catch the current trend. Flower girl tutus are taking the wedding fashion industry by storm. Check the same, for your flower girl.

Give some gifts to flower girl, to perform her duties in a better way. Goodie bags - filled with nutritious treats, crayons, paper, water, and small travel games - are also a special touch. Avoid chocolate and candy - both for the inevitable sugar rush as well as the possibility of stains.

Yet flower girls never fail to steal our hearts. The beautiful bride and the sweet flower girl always steal the show! Flower girls have enchanted wedding guests throughout the centuries.

Wedding Kids...

What can be the toughest work in a wedding? There can be several answers but managing kids; is one of them. Wondering what the scoop is on those cute little kids in the wedding party? Young boys can play two main roles: ring bearer and train bearer and girls can play the role of flower girl, ring bearer, train bearer, candle lighters etc. The children's roles are defined as attendants if they do not have traditional assignments such as flower girl, ring bearer. We will talk about each of them elaborately on successive blogs.  
 

A typical breakdown for attendant ages is:

3 to 6: flower girl, ring-bearer, or train-bearer.

7 to 10: carry candles in procession, carry prayer book in procession, hand out programs, hand out flowers to mothers or grandmothers, or tend guestbook.

11 to 15: junior bridesmaid or junior usher/groomsman. At 16, the "junior" title may belittle an adolescent attendant. It would be kinder to call him a groomsman or her a bridesmaid. These age ranges are not written in stone so feel free to adjust them to your family circumstances.

Only the role of ring-bearer carries a limit on how many children can perform it as there are only two rings available to bear. You may have as many flower girls, junior bridesmaids, and others as you like.

If you are not happy with above said ways and finding a better way for making kid a part of wedding, go through the following link. A heavenly way of involving kid in wedding. Tanishq (Indian jewellary brand) got many applauds for the nobel thought.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=P76E6b7SQs8

Markundi/Sarbaala, the youngster

“Sarbaala” in hindi, “Markundi” in odiya is the younger brother, cousin or nephew, who accompany groom on the marriage date. Presently, this is the most prominent way to involve younger kids as a part of the marriage celebration.

Origin: I spend enormous time on books and internet to know the evolution of this concept. Hardly, there is any mention about role of  “Markundi” in marriage. The following sentences, collected from web, carry the best meaning:

 Original word could have been derived from Sanskrit. Seh-baala...Associate groom. Or Sir-baala...replaceable groom (in case the groom disappears). Many weddings in old days used to happen amidst a feud and fight between two sides with a very good chance of Groom getting his head chopped by someone. Seh-baala will take his place and bring the bride home for tribe's honor no matter what. I am sure originally groom used to be 12 or 14 yr olds while Sarbaala few years younger but oddly grooms have grown older(sometimes 35 yr:-)) with time but sarbala have become even younger with the tradition turning into only a tradition without any practical use with time.

This tradition is practised in many parts of the sub-continent but almost religiously in north and eastern states. Anyone can go through below points, to make it more attractive.

·         Go for the same style of dress for Groom as well as Markundi. The only difference will be visible as size of the wearable.

·         Going one step ahead, choose shoes, turban and other accessories with similar to groom’s collection.

·         Spend some time with the Markundi and tell the youngster what you have in mind ahead of time, and explain what is expected of them on the day. Explain what a wedding is all about and why it’s an honour to get this special role.

·         Give a thought, how messy children can be, especially at the reception. It’s a wise decision, to investing some extra, on alternative wear for when they want to start skidding around the dance floor.

·         You’ll probably also want to invest in a gift to say thanks for their services. Bear in mind that all children want to play with gifts now, if it’s a new toy. So make sure it’s something that can keep them amused during the reception and not intrude on the reception, like a vuvuzela.

Save the Date, a teaser...

Teaser, a well known word for advertise industry. Have you ever thought, why movies, campaigns, ads have always teaser and why not a marriage event. Don’t worry. Now, read the article carefully and get a fair idea about creating a teaser for your marriage.

 

Lets the audience know something big is coming. After all, you had walked long years to be the lead protagonist of the movie sponsored by your dad.  This teaser is the single opening gambit that gets your friends and relatives attention and gives them a heads up as to what is coming their way.

Save the Date: A save the date is a notice stating the date of a significant event such as a wedding. It is typically sent to those likely to be interested or affected by the event and states the planned date of the occasion so that recipients who wish to attend know to keep that date free. For weddings, save the dates usually take the form of a card. They are generally sent out at least six to twelve months before the wedding date, and are usually followed by a formal wedding invitation.

You can send a card, as a part of traditional way. However, I will suggest going for an online update, on a social site used by your fraternity, with a simple image carrying bold letters “SAVE THE DATE” and the numerical date itself. Otherwise, send the same image to your friends mailing box. Publish the image at your own wedding website, dedicated for each and every update about the special day or send the “Save the date” card to their postal address followed by a marriage invitation. To add more twist to story, you can write, “HOLD THE DATE” with keeping other attributes as same as “Save the Date”.

Wedding Websites

Now, the world is all about internet and social networking. To keep pace with the time, “Wedding Website” is a must have option to choose before marriage. It has become important to announce important life events and information about you through a social network and online to keep your friends and family aware of what’s going on in your life. Getting married is no exception, so go for a wedding website that you can use to add details and information about your wedding. Share it in a really fast and unique way.

Couples use personalized wedding websites as a convenient and paper-free way to share the news of their upcoming event with the world. A wedding website is especially important for out-of-town guests making travel arrangements. Users can easily provide their guests with important info like route map for drive, group hotel rates, special attire, or anything that will be helpful for their guests before they arrive!

With the help of internet services, even the least tech-savvy create a semi-custom site with ease. You choose a design from a variety of templates and color schemes, and personalize it with your photos and event details. Beyond the basics, it's nice to include a brief story about how you and your fiance met or to recount the proposal. Your journey from day one to till date, his/her likes, any special moment etc...

This is a fabulous idea for making your marriage special. The best part, it comes under “Do it yourself” category. Neither the parent nor the friends will do it for your marriage. Don’t waste the time reading till the end to get more idea, open www.google.com on a new tab and type Wedding Websites....

Weeding Speech

Weeding speeches can be traced back in history as far as ancient Greece, where Choricius of Gaza, a Greek philosopher, became famous for his beautiful speeches delivered to brides and grooms.

Wedding speeches have definitely evolved through time. They used to be nothing more than blessings given by the fathers of both the bride and groom. Modern speeches often include humor as well as well wishing blessings.

Though it’s a tradition in western culture, can be a part of Indian marriage celebration. However, it allowed with the * condition of “GLOCAL” theory. “GLOCAL” means, Being global but acting local. The speech should follow local touch, as per our culture and traditions with the prescribed rules or frame of global standard.

Go for googling on internet, especially on You Tube. Definitely, you will get some good videos and have a fair idea about this concept. There are so many sample speeches available on internet and easily anyone can go for copy and pest, with a must “Edit” option to give own emotional touch.

Check the following video, one of the best speeches by bride’s father.

 

 

An Unique Way

Oriya  Actor  Sritam  Das  got  Married  to  Punam

Oriya actor and director Sritam Das got married to Punam from Indra Nagar, Rayagada on Wednesday (07/12/2011). The marriage took place in Gita Jnana temple situated at Biju Patnaik circle of Cuttack.

This marriage function happened in a unique way. Sritam came to the marriage place by riding a bullock cart and the baryatris by rickshaws. Many actors from Oriya album and film industry attended this ceremony.

How  Sritam  met  Punam ?

Acoording to Punam’s elder sister, they met eachother online four months ago. After they sent their photos to eachother by chatting. Then they informed their families and finally got married with both families’ wishes.

Source: http://incredibleorissa.com/oriyafilms/oriya-actor-sritam-das-got-married-to-punam-riding-bullock-cart/

 

Bachelor party / Mehendi:

 

Let’s plan something to make your bachelor party or Mehendi occasion memorable, for years to come. But one new, well versioned, dictionary. Put it on a prominent place or pass it from one friend to another.

Request your guests to circle words in a dictionary to remind you of their wedding day. Then ask them to write a message on a bookmark to explain why they picked each word. You'll always need a dictionary in your home, and you'll cherish this one forever.

Change the “Engine Oil”, to make the ride better

My friends still smile at me when i tell them about this thought and i in turn smile at them. One thing that i wanted to say, it’s not necessary to be a genius for making people happy. The only skill you require “Commonsense”. It depends on you, how smartly you can “Copy” the thoughts from other’s life, from book, from movie etc. and how smartly can “Pest” in real life with the "Midas touch" of personalise "Edit".

Just think of the last time, you had change the engine oil of your bike? I agree, about your petrol expenses like going for shopping, dinner, parks; etc with spouse but this thought is all about changing “Engine Oil” to make the ride better.

Now, come to the thought directly, (Intro narration, already finished). I was watching the movie, “Bunty Aur Babli”, and the particular scene at Taj Mahal, can act as engine oil for your bike of relationship. They take their marriage vows in front of the Taj Mahal, promising to see each other through life and death, promising to think about each other first, promising to take care of one another, promising to increase the “Love Meter” velocity day by day, promising not to bother about public, promising not to cheat each other bla bla... And then they go right back to doing what they like best.

Yes, one more Vow Ceremony can be done for both of you, you & only for you. Watch the movie and specifically the particular scene, remember those lines or write something similar to that with your own mother language (to make it different). Choose a place, select a particular time, and start taking vows for each other. These words, promises, thoughts are your own, for you only. It’s not for the society, not for family not for the sake of rituals.

Capture the memory with beautiful snaps and be happy. I am sure, a day will come and you will be glad to narrate this incident to your grand children and the cute will reply, what an Idea Grand Paa/Mummy????

Celebrating the Birthday of your Spouse

Birthday is one of the most important and special event in making relationship healthier. Apply any of the following unique ideas to give a smile on your spouse face.

1)      Read out the blogpost “Counting the bond and number game” on October month list and apply some of the number game with an edit touch.

2)      Neither presents a special gift to your spouse on his/her birthday nor celebrates the birthday. Try to celebrate the birthday week, present 7 gifts on each day and make plans for whole week celebration. 

3)      On the birthday, try to treat your spouse as a king/queen for that special day. Address him/her with royal prefix, like: My Lord XX, His highness XX, The Great Ruler XX, Her Highness YY, Queen YY and the Ruler of my heart Queen YY etc. Ask his/her orders for every next plan.

4)      Go to a nearby banner printing shop. Order for a huge banner saying “Happy Birthday to XXXXX”. Pest it on the back side of your bedroom door. On early morning, your spouse can get the surprise. Otherwise put it on your drawing room, garden area, on your roof or any prominent place as per your convenience. Wait for the surprise on early morning.

5)      Switch off all the gadgets connecting you with the outer world. Dedicate the whole day for him/her. Celebrate the day without any disturbances.

6)      At the end of the day or on the next day, write down your way of celebration on a diary. Pass the diary to your spouse and let her do the same thing. Read it on your leisure time and be happy with memories. Year by year, the stories will increase and add value to the memories.

7)      As usual for more ideas, search on newspaper, magazine, browse internet, borrow thoughts from friends etc. But never forget the two golden rules. You are most welcome, to do “Copy and Pest” with the magic touch of “Edit” by yourself.

Continuing the Bond with number game:

Some rough ideas are revolving around air. I can’t wait more, let’s go through.

What about few unique ideas to celebrate marriage anniversary in a way, which will make the moment big, bigger, best year by year. You will eagerly wait for the next year to celebrate in a larger way. After all it’s all about numbers. The numbers will increase on a arithmetic progression basis but but but the happiness will increase on geometric progression basis.

1)      Plant a tree on your first anniversary. Two tree on second year and so on… If you don’t have enough land or space for plantation, contact with nearby park, school, Municipality. When you will be at 50, these activities of past years will make happy, energize, socially involved, creating goodwill for you.

2)      Choose an orphanage and donate a gift on first year. Donate two gifts on second year and so on… Make sure, the gifts are useful and fulfilling basic needs rather than expensive and satisfying luxury needs. Monetary value doesn’t matter for the gifts, the empathy (no sympathy) and love for children matters.

3)      Go for a journey to one state on first anniversary and move to another state on second year. It will take you 30 years to complete whole India. Remember, you will never feel bored, it’s Incredible India!

4)      Go for a celebration at hotel for a single night on first anniversary. Double night celebration on second year and counting… May this idea will cost more year by year but it will give you some privacy in a restless world to make your bond stronger.

5)      Give a gift to your spouse on first year of anniversary and play with the numbers on coming year. As the years will pass, excitement will increase to open the gift boxes. No need to go for expensive always, emphasize on small, silly, fun making gifts.

6)      Go for a dinner on your first anniversary and order a single dish like Pizza, Biriyani, Pasta, Noodles etc. Second year, order two dishes and continue the number game for dishes. As the years will pass, the size of table will increase for dinner (just kidding).

7)      You can also add few more thoughts and put them on number game. Thoughts like: Inviting number of guests, writing number of love letters, giving number of kisses, lighting number of candles in temple, donating number of sweets packets to strangers and thoughts from your mind for your love.

.........................................................................Happy Numbers...............................................................

Wedding Dress

Hello Friends,

In India, as a general rule of thumb, the Suit or Sherwani is the cornerstone of men's wedding fashion..where as Sarees, Choli, Ghagra, Lehenga etc. are for bride. As usual, we are just sharing few ideas to make the centre stage different and memorable.

1) Try to find out a fashion designing institute near by your area. Discuss with some young, energetic student. Select one of them to design your wedding dress. They will do it for experience, where you don't have to pay any money or a little amount. At the end, you are wearing a designer outfit at your special day.

2) Special for Bride: You can go for the same saree or bridal dress, used by your mother on her wedding day. This is an unique way of showing your love to parents.

3) Can choose your traditional attire. It shows your passion in heritage and respect towards ypour own culture and rituals.

                                                              :::::Happy Wedding:::::::

 

Marriage Songs

As per my knowledge, in each and evry culyure, there are some traditional marrige songs. These songs are an important aspects of marriage. More of the songs, describes about, advices for a better family life, the feelings of parents for loosing their daughter, making their daughter away from themselves, the relatives feeling for the lovely bride, the silly happenings done by bride at her early life, the affection among siblings etc.............

       In Oriya (Odisa, a state of India) culture, there are marriage songs for bride, bride's mother, bride's aunty and for few others. They will sing and cry for their daughter being going away, far away from them.

       Now, come to point, reason of describing this ritual of marriage, You can apply this and make a diiferent to your wedding. Yes, collect the data about marriage songs. Go for a printing option. Print 3 to 5 pages of marriage songs and distribute among friends, relatives etc... You can also distribute this along with Invitation Card.

            Make a littile different. I don't know about you, but surely, I will.......

Is it bound for Groom, to go by car in Barat..

Hi Friends,
Today some different thoughts came to my mind. Why 99.99% of the groom choosing normal way of transportation during BARAT or PROCESSION or Way to Mandap. Everyody in fond of using Cars or Horse. To make something different, guys are trying expensive cars on rental.
           If, somebody interested to make this aspect of marriage memorable, try the following options..
1) Bullock Cart as per our tradition...
2) Horse cart, something with a modern touch...
3) Gulf-Course cart, Making it sporty.....
4) "Palinki" or "Palkin", with a pure Indian touch....
5) Riding on elephant, on way to bride's place..a king style wedding.
6) Your own / family car....
7) Your Father's first car...
8) The car used for your parent's marriage...
9) A chartered helicopter on rent for 30 minutes...
10) A sky diving on a ground near by bride's home & a walk to mandap from that place..
11) Using a open hood GYPSY....
12) Going in a Volvo bus with the barati / friends...

Why always "X weds Y" sign at entrance...

In India, we are commonly attached with a sign "....X...weds.....Y...." in every marriage or reception entrance. Most of us use the same kind of sign. See, If you can try few of the followings..... to get a new touch. It's a silly change, but marks a lot. Adds tons of value to make your marriage memorable..

1) Welcome to the wedding of X and her Mr. Right Y
2) X weds her Mr. Right Y
3) X knotsY
4) Saddi Ke Bandhan mein X and Y
5) Samaya ke Pahiyee mein X and Y
6) X and Y on a happy journey of life
7) X as U and Y as Me..aur aaj se hum..
8) Sometime friends, now couple..X and Y
9) Chalte chalte X ties Y
10) X with Y for rest of life..
11) X as Bride, Y as Groom..
12) Let the begining of a new story with X and Y

A book for happy relationship

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus is a book written by American author, and relationship counselor, John Gray.
               Most of common relationship problems between men and women are a result of fundamental differences between the genders, which the author exemplifies by means of the book's eponymous metaphor: that men and women are from distinct planets, – men fromMars and women fromVenus – and that each gender is acclimated to its own planet's society and customs, but not those of the other.
      Truly, this book will help to understand the needs and requirements of different gender. Men are women are not different from each other physically but also in thought process, demands, habits, natures etc...   It can make a couple's life better....

Its not about only one day

Today, I swa the Hindi movie, "Mausam"..staring by Sahid Kapoor....
                        I like a scene, where the young couple making art works"Palm signs" on wall with paints...So simple...but helps in making relationship. Love is not for one day or for a year. It should be there everytime, in every aspect. Mostly young couples stop enjoying their rlationships after 2 to 3 years of marriage. Everybody get busy in earning money or doing things for the present or upcoming family members. Where as, they forget to enjoy thier relations, cheering the happy moments in day to day life.
      They shows artificial loves, as they are husband and wife by law. Husband celebrate her birthday commonly because being its her birthday, celebration is must. The spirit of 1st time birthday, decreases year by year....
     There is a requirement of celebrating each moment. Do silly silly activties to cheer the moments. In "Shabad" fim (Staring by Sanjay dutt & Aiswarya), the couple try to play a game, who can make the more no. of CHUTKI by fingers....
       How romantic...............